I'm the Reason We Can't Have Nice Things

It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.

When a woman is assaulted, people question what she was wearing, how much she was drinking, whether or not she did anything to “lead him on” — removing the blame for the assault from the rapist and instead placing it on the victim.
This perpetuates the idea that there are circumstances under which sexual assault is acceptable. There are not. Women — and men, too — have the right to walk and and sleep and drink and live their lives without the fear of unwanted sexual harassment or assault. That right is not watered down or nullified by circumstance; it exists whether the victim was falling down drunk or stone-cold sober.
And when a girl ends up without her clothes on because she was sexually assaulted, it doesn’t matter if she was wearing a bikini or a burka. Sexual assault does not become more or less permissible based on what the victim was doing or wearing, and as a society, we need to stop placing an asterisk next to that assertion.